Confidence Is The Key, To Everything
I have struggled with confidence for quite some time. I didn’t feel like I was worthy of the same things as others. There was a constant hierarchy in my head, one I could never climb. I always felt inferior to others, whoever it was, no matter what. I had low self-esteem, a lack of worthiness, and an overall inability to deem myself worthy of what I wanted.
I have spent a lot of time working on being the most confident version of myself. One that isn’t afraid to take up space. Someone who is willing to do the work, to create something worth being confident in. I had to break down all the walls that were built in an effort to keep myself feeling small. I challenged them one by one. It was like a light switch I had to turn on. There was nothing organic about it. I had to change the way I talked to myself. I changed the way I process my thoughts. I created an entirely new relationship with myself.
I believed I was someone who deserved happiness, I created the happiness myself, and I won’t let anyone take that from me. Once I created that foundation, I was able to appear more outwardly confident. I treated people with respect and empathy, along with boundaries and limits. I stopped oversharing and started protecting my peace. I finally believed I was worthy of taking up space. Nothing changed other than how I chose to see myself. I wasn’t easily altered when I felt alone, depressed, or inferior. I took the time, did the work, and listened within to better understand how I could help myself feel better, and tell myself I deserved to be happy.
Confidence is the connection to ourselves
Confidence is our belief that we are worthy. If you don’t feel like you deserve amazing things, you’re probably not very confident. If you see yourself as capable and deserving, then you’re probably pretty confident.
Look in the mirror every day and see a person you respect and admire. Know that your ideas, opinions, and feelings are worthy of attention. Don’t bother thinking that you need to be perfect, or anywhere near perfect in order to be worthy. This sense of loneliness we feel when we are left with ourselves is built upon us thinking we need to be more. More attractive. More successful. More anything. Our loneliness is not caused by being alone, it’s caused by a need for a connection to ourselves. Learn to love yourself, and you will never be lonely again. You will be inquisitive. You will register emotions as something to observe, not own and claim. It’s within that you find the best friend you’re looking for. It’s inside you where you can find the soulmate you’re waiting for. As cheesy as it may sound on the surface, there is absolutely no better feeling than being comfortable and enjoying being alone. To truly love yourself so much that you get excited to spend time within your own mind. This is where confidence is born. This is where you see yourself as worthy. You see yourself for who you are, and you embrace the beauty within your individuality and immense potential.
Confidence is the commitment to ourselves
Once we have created a foundation where we are able to genuinely love ourselves, we must show up for ourselves. Discover what you want from life. Take the time to learn more about yourself and your purpose. Set goals, believe in them, and take consistent steps toward making them real. Don’t get lost in the expectation of perfection. Humble yourself to know that there is only so much you can do in a day. But it’s how we spend our days that make up our lives.
Believe you are worthy of amazing things by showing up for yourself, the best way you know how, and being mindful when it’s time to push forward or time to rest. It’s all a form of commitment. Committing to what’s best for you, even if it’s hard. Build the trust within yourself that’s rooted in genuine love for who you are, and what you offer the world. Create meaning within your daily offerings. Be intentional with your time, and to who you share it with. If someone is no longer bringing light into your life, lose them. There is no explanation needed. You have the power to protect your peace.
Confidence is how we communicate our worth to others
Do not let anyone think they are better than you. Literally, no one is better than you. Even if they have significantly more money, have more success, whatever. There is absolutely no reason you should feel inferior to anyone. The more insecure someone makes you feel, the more you must recognize the inner turmoil they tolerate.
Create meaningful relationships, communicate strongly, build trust and express your true self. Protect your peace. Never lose the anchor of acknowledging your worthiness, no matter how someone else treats you. That is their problem, not yours. Be respectful, and never make anyone feel like they are less than you. Operate from a place of genuineness. Work harder to build others up, rather than tearing yourself down in comparison. There is plenty of space in this world, and there is plenty of things that differentiate us from one another. Celebrate those things rather than sabotaging yourself.
